The Dating Do’s and Don’ts – Part 3

If you happened to miss The Dating Do’s and Don’ts Part 1 and Part 2, here they are for your information and enjoyment.

Todays installment will focus on the do’s and don’ts of blind dating, specifically when meeting online:

DO: There is no set rule on how communication after meeting online should happen. Some people like to get the first date out of the way. Some like to get to know each other a little (or a lot). It’s not a matter of being right or wrong, because people have different rules and it’s a matter of preference. But don’t press your possible date into communicating with you the way YOU want. Be respectful.
DON’T: Sometimes people just want to ease into communication. If your date isn’t down for the phone conversation, but asks you questions about yourself via e-mail, do not respond the following way:
“Text or callme for hellsakes lol, we could cover in a sec what would take me fo eveva to type out”. Not only may she not WANT to text or callya, but you end up looking retarded.

DO: It’s OK to ask for your potential dates phone number, but be respectful. Don’t call or text her all the time. That’s called stalking. A conversation or two is a good way to get to know a little bit about each other before the face-to-face meeting, and can give you good conversation ideas for the impending date. And it’s always polite and a good idea to call when you say you’re going to. If you say you’re going to do something, do it.
DON’T: Do not call this potential love puppy after 10 pm (unless she/he asks you to), OR, before 9 am. People work. People sleep. Sometimes the conversation clicks and you want to keep talking, but limit the length.

DO: During the pre-date conversations, whether by email, IM, or phone, feel free to ask questions about your possible date. But keep it appropriate. Try to not delve too deep. Sometimes there are things that a person should know about you. And there are things you should keep to yourself, and things you shouldn’t ask. Remember, this is a stranger, and nothing is their business unless you make it their business. And you risk freaking the person out!
DON’T: It’s probably not a good idea to say the following things to your date BEFORE you are actually dating, OR before you actually meet: EXAMPLE 1: “I was homeless for awhile and was arrested and then placed in a mental hospital. When I got out I was too afraid to leave my house for over 6 months. But I’m OK now… I live with my mom, don’t have a car, but ride my bike everywhere:”. EXAMPLE 2: “I have 2 daughters 7 months apart in age”. EXAMPLE 3: “I really feel like you’re the one… I think I love you”. EXAMPLE 4: “I’m still in love with my former girlfriend/wife”. And if this is you, you should not be dating! EXAMPLE 5: “I don’t believe in love”. Please… take yourself out of the dating pool.

DO: Being playful and innocent teasing can be a good thing. It allows you to flirt without making things too intense or uncomfortable. It also lightens the mood of what can often be a stressful situation. Feel free to be a little silly on your first date, but keep it kind and keep it appropriate.
DON’T: DO NOT take your date go-cart racing and then ram her into the wall numerous times. Especially when she specifically asks you NOT to do. Do not trip your date as she’s walking. While playing miniature golf, do not continually hit the back of your dates knee with your golf club as she is putting. It’s not cute, it’s just annoying. If you were 7 years old, this behavior might be acceptable. But you’re not, and it isn’t.

DO: If you happen to talk to your blind date a lot before the big day, keep things in check. Remember that you haven’t met this person and the connection that you feel via electronic communication devices may not translate well in person. Again, it’s great getting to know someone, but try to keep a rein on your excitement.
DON’T: Sometimes things just don’t click on a first/blind date. If you’re not feeling it, be honest. Don’t tell your date that you’d like to see him/her again if you have no intention of calling or making another date. A basic “it was really nice meeting you” will suffice. On the flip side, if your date isn’t into you, DO NOT call or text her over and over again, begging her to call you. Do not cry and tell her that you feel like she’s the one. It’s pathetic and makes it very awkward for that person. IT WAS A FIRST DATE! Let it go (psycho).

DO: Pay attention to the signals you are getting. If at the end of a date the person seems receptive to a hug, go ahead and do it. But always be respectful. If there is chemistry or a connection, and you’re confident another date will follow, hold back. It’s always best to do LESS than overstep boundaries and screw things up.
DON’T: Your date may be into you, but may not feel ready or willing to have you hold her hand or accept a kiss. Maybe your date is undecided about how she feels. Give your date some space. DO NOT lean in to kiss your date after you’ve already unsuccessfully tried and she pulled back and turned her head. It’s not a “no means yes” sort of thing. Moron.

These are just a few blind date tips. Just keep in mind that this person is a stranger, regardless of how many times or at what length you’ve talked on the phone. Go in with a positive attitude, but keep ahold of your heart and your head. Be respectful. Be fun. Be yourself, unless you happen to be a jackass. This is the time when you are making a first impression… Don’t fuck it up!

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2 Comments on “The Dating Do’s and Don’ts – Part 3”

  1. Pants Says:

    I think you should email this to them.

  2. The Grunt Says:

    I didn’t see anything about rubber chickens in this post, so I think I’m all set.

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