It’s Gotta Go Wednesday

I remember when my family got a cellphone, aka… the brick. It was probably about 20 years ago, and it was to be used in case of emergencies. I probably only used it 5 times in the 8 years we had it.

I held off on getting a phone of my own until my first was born. I felt vulnerable out there in the world with a newborn and without the ability to call (or conveniently call) if something happened. It felt like getting a phone was the responsible thing to do. It also made life a little easier.

At first I didn’t use it much. It took me over a year to realize what texting was and that I had it.

Fast forward to today.

I have an HTC Droid, which is one of Verizon’s version of the iPhone. It has pretty much every feature I could possibly think of, and a ton that I don’t. I have internet access, email, games, video, calendar, etc. It’s the phone that I use not only for my personal stuff, but also for business. I don’t even think anyone I know (except possibly my mom) even HAS our home number. I think of my phone as a wonderful thing.

ALL of that being said, in terms of cellphones, there can be too much of a good thing. I’ve heard the arguments and complaints about how people use (or misuse) their phones by talking loudly in restaurants, looking at their bright phone during a dark movie, etc. Yes, I agree that all of those things are rude. But my complaint is on a more personal level.

As a mom of 5, having a phone on my person at most times comes in handy. Over the years I’ve had numerous calls from the school regarding a sick or injured child, and if I didn’t have my cell phone, I wouldn’t have gotten that information for quite some time. If I’m working on a deal, I need to be able to be reached and reach clients or other agents at a moments notice, and my cellphone makes that possible. There have been times when I’ve been at lunch with a friend, or working, and have gotten such a call. So I understand when other people answer those types of calls. I do NOT, however, answer random, everyday calls when I am spending time with another person. If my mom called like 10 times in a row, yes, I would probably answer because that is abnormal and it would tell me that something was probably wrong. But for the most part, I let calls go to voicemail and deal with whatever it is later.

During my 2+ years of being single, I had a friend who I sort of dated (gag) who ignited this source of anger. We’d be at dinner, and there he’d be, looking at his stupid iPhone during half of the meal. He was pathetically attached to that gadget, and this behavior was around everyone, not just me. And while I appreciate the cool apps and accessibility that phones provide, I also think that it’s one more way that people have checked-out life happening around them.

It’s also just plain rude. To me, constantly checking your phone instead of engaging with the person you’re with sends a clear message that: 1) I’m bored by your presence and need to be entertained, or 2) I’m here, but I’m not really here, or 3) I’ve got better things to do than give you my undivided attention.

Just like everyone else, I’m a busy person. If I schedule a lunch date with you, it means I must really like you. Free time can be hard to come by, so if you are a person that I choose to spend that down time with, I must think that you’re awesome and you are an important part of my life. I make my best effort to be there with you in the moment. All I ask is that you be there with me. If it’s something important and time sensitive, go ahead and take care of things… I understand. I do the same thing. But checking up on your Facebook can and should wait.

To be honest, this isn’t really that big of an issue for me. It is something I’ve experienced before and often see happen out in public. I decided that this would be this weeks I.G.G.W. when the other night while waiting for a movie to start, I watched a young couple go 5 minutes without speaking to each other. The man stared blankly ahead while the woman was deeply engrossed in whatever fascinating things were on her phone. Whatever it was had absolutely nothing to do with the person she was with. I guess if it doesn’t bother him, fine. For me, looking at your phone constantly, especially when you’re with other people (and more specifically, ME)… it’s gotta go.

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2 Comments on “It’s Gotta Go Wednesday”

  1. The Grunt Says:

    I feel like the cell phone has become the “pipe” that people gotta hit constantly. Good call.

  2. Sarah Bisel Says:

    Bj and I were just talking about that last night. I seriously hate it when you are spending “special” time with someone and they are playing scrabble on the internet. Argh.

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