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Drum Roll Please…

January 23, 2012

More anticipated than the Oscars. More thrilling that any roller coaster. The moment you’ve all been waiting for…

My Anniversary Photos.

here is the fondue that changed my life forever

here is me enjoying the fondue that changed my life forever

here is me with the man I married, which changed my life forever

Statistically speaking, 1 out of only a pool of 3 may not be scientifically significant, but this anniversary beat out year 1 and 2… blew ’em out of the water! Who said that the anniversary symbolized by leather isn’t awesome.

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For Ever And Always

December 1, 2011

Last night my sweet Cooper knocked on my door about 20 minutes after bedtime.

“Mom? Can I come in?”.

“Sure… what’s up?”, I asked.

As he entered my room, I could clearly see that he was upset.

“What’s wrong Sweetie?”

He proceeded to tell me that he was really sad after reading a book. When I asked him which book had turned my brave kid into a weeping mess, it all made sense.

There is one book that I simply cannot read without blubbering like a complete baby. I can’t even TALK about the book without tearing up. For me it is such a simple representation and reflection of my love for my parents, and as a parent, my unconditional love of my children.

As I hugged and comforted him, the emotion took over me as well, partly because of the premise of the story, and partly because I saw what I already know… I have such an amazingly tender and loving boy.

If you haven’t read it, do.

40+ Years and Still Going Strong

September 5, 2011

The rate of divorce in the United States is over 50% (it’s over 67% for 2nd marriages. OUCH!).

There are lots of theories as to why so many marriages, more than HALF, crumble. Life is quite a bit different from 50 years ago. Even 20 years ago. Money problems, stress of children, sexual dissatisfaction and infidelity are to name a few. My generation and the ones since have grown up believing that they deserve and can have everything they want. Life is incredibly fast paced compared to that of my parents.

I think that this new mind-set has a lot of amazing benefits and have opened doors that our grandparents never imagined for us, but this also comes with an attitude that threatens the sanctity of marriage. If you’re unhappy, change it. Think someone else is better for you? Go for it. Unsatisfied with your spouse? Divorce! That is a simplification of reality, but I think it fairly represents the current attitude.

As someone who has been through divorce, maybe I am no different. I am part of a statistic that is, unfortunately, the majority out there. I’m not saying that divorce is always a bad thing, or those who get divorced are simply throwing in the towel to find something better. There are so many different reasons and scenarios as to why people choose to end a marriage. Divorce is sometimes a blessing. Sometimes not. But the ever-growing rate of divorce is pretty alarming, at least to me, and I think more often than not, people are too quick to throw in the towel. When I was a kid, I had very few friends with divorced parents. Now, it seems to be the norm.

I am so proud to have parents that are still together. Their marriage has survived having very little money as newlyweds, 5 children, the death of 1 child, teenagers, and many things I’m sure I was not privy to while growing up. I’m grateful to have such amazing examples when it comes to compromise, selflessness, and sticking it out no matter what. Greg is also lucky to have parents that, through everything, stayed by each others side. I never got to meet Greg’s dad, Neil. He died a few months before we met, but I am impressed by his mom’s committment and unconditional love for her husband. And the stories about Greg’s dad and his love and loyalty to his family are wonderful to hear. My grandparents are no longer living, but they all stayed together until death, and life was not always easy for either couple. But if they could work through it, anyone can!

I’m grateful that Greg and I are both committed to never repeat the past, and are in it for the long haul. Cuz that 67% is just not acceptable! There seems to be this attitude of arrogance that “kids” (OK, 30 somethings) have. We know more than our parents, and are more savvy than the people who raised us. Since over 50% of us are screwing up somewhere along the lines, maybe they must have SOME idea of what they’re doing.

Marriage advice from a divorcee. HA! No, not really. I suppose my advice here is look to those who’ve had a successful marriage, shut up, listen and watch, and implement. If you’re married, do something extra nice for your spouse today. And tomorrow. And the day after that. You, your kids, and your partner will thank you for it.

 

No Animals Were Harmed

April 25, 2011

Not posting for a while means that I have some catch-up to do, which isn’t my favorite thing. However, my lack of posting is evidence of the amazing, wonderful, and glorious week I had of doing nothing in particular.

We left for St. George Tuesday afternoon, were welcomed by glorious weather (a nice break from the crappy cold and rain that SLC had been experiencing for what seems like the 249023 days preceding our departure, as well as our entire absence), and enjoyed that lovely weather for our entire stay. YIPPY!

A few key and momentous things happened on this trip down South.

  • I wore sunscreen. Everyday! This is nothing short of a miracle, and I have to believe that it being Easter and all… let’s just say there is some divine intervention involved here. I’m pretty sure that there has never been a time when I haven’t gotten sunburnt. Think lobster.
  • My mom, Greg, niece and I visited Zions National Park on Wednesday. The entrance fee was waived for the week (yippy!), and it was really crowded (boo!), but it was a really nice excursion. I’ve only been to Zions once before, and it was when I was young, so my memory of it is very vague. Lame, seeing as I live in Utah. But it was perfect weather and the sights did not disappoint. It was beautiful!
  • Let me preface this by saying that I did not feed the animals (because there were signs stating that it was forbidden, and doing so would result in a $100 fine). I did, however, pet a few squirrels. They had obviously become very familiar and comfortable with humans, and some were pretty friendly. Which is why I picked one of them up. I put him down because my mom is a spaz and was worried that I was going to get bit and subsequently get rabies. I know better (mostly because I am a self-proclaimed animal whisperer), but decided to give in to my mother’s wishes because I am an obedient child. Anyway, the squirrel loved me and even when I put it down, he stuck around and let me pet him some more. We are now forever friends and I think he might come for a weekend visit. At the very least I’m sure he’ll send a postcard or email. I also picked up a really cool looking, iridescent green and blue beetle, who decided it would be cool to excrete some stinky liquid on my hands. I needed no prompting to put that jerk down.
  • Ebb and flow. Yin and yang. Marriage has its ups and downs. Now don’t get me wrong, there aren’t downs at home, but just like everyone else, we get into our routine, go with the flow, days run into each other, weeks feel the same as the previous and the next. But this little excursion sans children really gave us the time that we don’t normally get to relax, rejuvenate, and reconnect. Greg golfed, I lounged, we swam, watched movies, ate, laughed, played games, swam some more, ate some more, etc. It was HEAVEN!
  • Even though our reign in a certain card game ended, we still had fun playing games each night with my family (my parents, sister & her family).
  • We ate out at least once per day, probably gained 10 lbs., and enjoyed every minute of it. I can testify that there IS good sushi in Southern Utah. Who knew!

We returned home last night to cooler weather, a weird smell in the kitchen, and car that is going on week 4 in the shop. We also came home to kids that missed us like crazy (it was really nice to have them in our arms again and under our care), my bdff (best dog forever friend) Jake, and getting back into the groove that I call my life.

I missed (sort of) not having the kids for Easter, doing all of our Easter traditions (although we did dye eggs with them the weekend before we left), and being without them for FIVE WHOLE DAYS. But I can honestly say that this was probably the best week I’ve ever had with just me and the hubby. Thanks for the good times :).

Does It Get Any Better?

April 5, 2011

Yes, yes it does. BUT, it’s pretty dang exciting. Not only did I get a new fence this past week, but I also got (drumroll)….

New bedding! After Greg and I had been married 6 months or so, I realized that the floral print of my duvet comforter MAYBE wasn’t what he would have chosen for himself. And I had owned this particular bedding for quite some time, so getting something new was definitely in order. I searched and searched and came up with a bedspread that I thought Greg would like. But truth be told, I didn’t ever really love it. We’ve had it for over a year, and while it’s OK, it’s only OK. It’s thin but heavy, and often slid down the bed while we were sleeping (it’s actually Greg’s fault, because he sleeps like a freak of nature). It was also dark, and it made the room feel dark and heavy.

As fascinating as the details of my bedding and why I did and did not like my bedspread is, I’ll forgo getting in much deeper. Here is a picture of the new addition to my bedding family.


There are some stitching details that don’t show up in the photo, which is a shame because that is my favorite part of this bedding set, but you get the general idea. I must give credit where credit is due… Greg picked it out. It’s much softer and while it’s fluffy and warmer, it’s also very light (as in weight). I am really liking how our bedroom looks much brighter. If you’ve been reading my blog for some time, then you should be aware of the fact that I am kind of a bed/bedding freak (I’m also a fan of towels), so stuff like this are some of many simple little pleasures in my life :).

Seriously, am I dedicating a post to bedding? I guess it shouldn’t be a surprise… I’ve dedicated posts to dog poo, a fence, vomit, a collar of shame, etc.

I have another BIG(ger) purchase to discuss, but I’ll save it for another, more appropriate day. In the meantime, I think I’ll stay here in my bed, cozy, warm AND stylish :).

Date DAY!

March 11, 2011

Cooper was next in line for a date with me. It was supposed to happen in February, but due to time constraints (and piss poor planning), we had to push it into March. Because the kids didn’t have school today AND Greg was home, it seemed like a perfect time for Cooper and I to spend some quality time together.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I don’t think the Nickelcade is great and all, but I’ve been there on my LAST 3 kid dates, and even though it was Cooper’s first pick, I gently tried to persuade him to choose something different. But ultimately I left it up to him. He told me he’d think about it and let me know after lunch :).

He had gotten a gift certificate for a free children’s meal (I love these) at Archibald’s Restaurant, which is located at Garner Village (the place I took Emma in October), so he decided that was the place he wanted to eat. After a yummy meal (and a huge dessert he polished off all on his own), we decided to walk around and look at the shops.

It was fun walking hand-in-hand with my sweet boy, who tells me multiple times every hour that he loves me :). We stopped at a little shop and Cooper was immediately drawn to a display of children’s watches. They were cute, and pretty inexpensive, so I asked if he wanted one. He said yes, but that he was worried about how much it cost. Seriously, this kid is so incredibly thoughtful, almost in a way that makes me sad. It’s like he felt like he didn’t deserve it, but I assured him he did, and was more than happy to buy it for him.

We strolled the shops for a few more minutes and then headed home. I can’t count the times he said that he told me thank you not only for lunch and the watch, but also for spending time with him. MY PLEASURE! I can honestly say that I have never met a more polite or sweet child in my entire life, and today’s wonderful afternoon was well spent!

One Proud Mama

February 25, 2011

Growing up, my dad was involved in the scouting program. Actually, I think he was even the Scout Master. But being younger than my brothers and also a girl, any knowledge about the cub/boy scout program beyond knowing my dad & brothers were involved in it is extremely limited. Fast forward to today… I’m a mother of two boys, both who are scouts.

Tuesday was the Gold & Blue Banquet, which is a dinner and awards ceremony that each scout pack holds yearly. The boys are allowed 2 guests, dinner is served, and the boys who have earned badges or other awards are awarded said badges.

Ian is a Webelo this year, which is the last “level” of cub scouts before they move on to BOY Scouts. Webelos can earn their Webelos badge, but with some extra work, they can also earn their “Arrow Of Light” patch. I didn’t know what the Arrow of Light was until recently, but I guess it’s a big deal. It’s the EAGLE SCOUT (Google if it if you don’t know what it is) of the Cub Scout program.

I was really frustrated and stressed about this upcoming event because many of Ian’s requirements weren’t signed off. And being that I’m pretty much clueless about all things scout, I wasn’t aware of what was going on until about a month before. This past two weeks we’ve been working on finishing all of the loose ends, but as of Monday, I didn’t think we’d be ready for Ian to get his awards Tuesday at the banquette. Monday afternoon Ian’s scout leader called me and told me he actually WOULD be ready to receive his Webelos badge as well as his Arrow of Light at the banquette.

Woo hoo!

It was fun night with cute decorations, good food, and cute boys participating in the program. At the end of the evening, Ian (along with 2 other boys) were called to come up front, along with their parents, and presented their Webelos badge. There was then a small presentation and story where the boys were given their Arrow Of Light award.

I can’t believe how fast my kids are growing up, and this night made me realize that my little boy is becoming a little man. I’m so incredibly proud of what a great person Ian is turning out to be. He’s definitely a work in progress, but has some amazing characteristics… I feel blessed and honored to be his mother.

Congrats Ian! I love you :).

(Pictures to come)