Tonight went in a direction that I hadn’t planned on. With a number of back-to-back evenings filled with some sorrow and regret, I expected this night to be more of the same.
After putting the kids to bed, I decided to sit outside and enjoy what will be one of the last nice nights of the season. The air was calm, cool and yet comfortable, and the skies were clear. I took a moment and looked up at the stars, and it felt oddly almost, well, romantic.
I laid down on the cold cement, put my hands behind my back, and let my mind wander.
I began to think back throughout my existence. Memories that I haven’t recalled in quite some time surfaced.
I remembered how much I reveled sleeping outside on summer nights as a kid and teenager. About how I loved waking up to the sun peeking over the mountain tops, feeling my cat snuggled up still asleep between my feet. I loved how cool it was on those mornings, and how it felt all warm under my blankets while breathing the crisp air. I remember how alive I felt on mornings like those.
I reminisced about my “Naked Fest 2001” trip to Lake Powell. It was a time in which I never felt so free, relaxed, and really experienced what it was like to rather be no place than where I was at.
I thought back to July 4th in 2003, when, after getting the kids to sleep, my ex and I climbed up on the roof with a blanket and some drinks to watch the fireworks. We made love on the rooftop that night. It was romantic, tender, and passionate. There have been a number of defining moments in my life. This was one of them. I remember how we held each other, and when I looked into his eyes, how much in love I felt with him at that moment, and how much I knew he was in love with me.
I recalled the birth of my first child, and how surprised I was that in only an instant, everything-my purpose, my direction, my life-became clear to me. As the doctor placed my son on my chest, my husband (at the time) put his arm around us and cried. I have never felt so safe or whole as I did that night.
As these memories came flooding back, I didn’t feel the sadness that I would expect from someone so, as of late, down. Instead of a feeling of loss for things that were but no longer are, I felt incredibly blessed just to have been able to experience them. There was no regret, no sadness…just an overwhelming sense of peace. I just enjoyed the moment. For the hour or so that I looked up at that sky and allowed these memories to wash over me, I felt strangely happy.
And an even more remarkable idea came into my head. In ten years from now, I am confident that on a night like tonight, I will be able to lay down, look at the stars, and once again pull from wonderful memories of things that have yet to occur.